Just married? Read about divorce
Finding out how articles about divorce can make you see your working marriage in a different prospective
A coworker – married less than 2 years – showed up at the office the other day with a big smile and a copy of Divorce Magazine. She said she found it for free at the grocery store.
“Whaaaat? – I said – I didn’t even know there is a magazine about divorce! I want it” (I have been married about 6 months)
Of course my curiosity has nothing to do with me wanting to get divorced, I just want to read it!
So I googled it and found the website. Honestly, inside of me, I was feeling a little guilty: “Am I suppose to be reading this?” I thought, but I didn’t stop.
I soon realized that divorce – as well as weddings – is a business.
Beside that, I found lots of articles that really shocked me.
The first was about a study that shows how love isn’t enough to power marriage, which I found very discouraging and realistic.
“Love by itself is a pretty flimsy foundation for a marriage,” stated W. Bradford Wilcox, the study’s co-author. “Marriage is about a long-term commitment, thick and thin, kids, money — all that stuff. But in our day and age, as people have developed more independence, there’s been much more focus on just the emotional dimensions of married life.”
I always thought you can deal with everything in life as long as you have love, but maybe reality is different. I’m starting to see that, and honestly I do not like it.
Once you know it’s not about love anymore, what do you have? What can make you believe in your marriage more than your own feelings?
Apparently mine is just a romantic vision of marriage, that does not work in real life! Great!
I wonder, should I have discovered this Divorce Magazine 6 months ago??? – Did I say that out loud? -
The second, Parent of first-born baby girl more likely to divorce shocked me even more:
“Fathers are significantly (three per cent) less likely to be living with their children if they have daughters versus sons,” the researchers declared (…) And if a couple had three daughters, the divorce rate jumped up 10%.
Ok, I didn’t see that coming.
Yes, of course if I’m going to have a baby, he would like to have a boy,while I would prefer a girl! But I have never thought this could be what it will come down to.
Is it really it? I mean, is this really what marriage is today?
It’s almost like a disease that you can not run away from. Of course you always think it is never going to happen to you… and then….
I’m not sure if I’m happy to know those things now, so I’m aware and I can try not to fall on these obstacles, or do I have to start praying for a baby boy!!!!!